Sunday, July 17, 2011

Thoughts from my bed.....

I'm sure you are wondering what does that mean....I thought it would be a fun new segment...where I actually write about some things I want to write about, but never do because I have so many other things to post about.....and I am typing from my bed...which is nice because I am not hunched over the computer...but laying in my cozy bed.

Tonights thoughts are many but I am going to focus on the womens lib movement, and how I feel it has done more harm than good.

I know that statement may cause a lot of controversy...but its how I feel.

I think about this a lot...but tonight it is on my mind because my niece is in the hospital a short two weeks after my sister went back to work.

By creating the womens lib movement....and getting women so prominently in the work force...we have made it near impossible for women to stay home and take care of their children and homes. I know not all women want to do that but so very many do that are not able to.

My sis likes her job and likes working but it would be a whole lot easier if she could stay home with her kids especially since my niece has special needs. If she could afford to stay home with her babies she would.

Chad and I chose way back when gab was born for me to stay home with the kids. Financially it would be huge if I worked outside of the home... But I want to be with my kids (most of the time...ha ha)...they need their mama....even at 14 Gab needs me more than ever....not that she thinks so...but someone needs to guide their choices and decisions at this age ....especially with boys in the picture, and drugs, alcohol, friends , internet safety ..and much more facing todays teens.

I wish we could rewind back to the 1950's....I feel like that was the golden age in america...the ideal time to live.....realistically I know there is no such thing as perfect...and there were issues..but as a whole it was ideal.

I know there are women who love their jobs and want to work and find a way for their partner to stay home...which is great too...but I'm sure as any average one income family will tell is hard.....and it is even harder with four kids in todays economy.....yes I know I didn't have to have four kids...But I wanted to... I have to remind my self of this when I can't go get that cute new pair of shoes I want. Truth be told I might have had more if we could have afforded it...

One other thought on this topic...
Because we as women have made it so that we can do anything a man can do we have taken away some things from our selves..... Things like being treated more delicately....I personally like haveing doors opened for me, and if I have my hands full of kids and groceries having a man offer to help is amazing...we are also expected to keep our emotions in check ....and it has also affected how we dress...I personally like wearing dresses and looking pretty....

Getting bleary eyed....enough for one night.
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Heidi said...

I agree with you on all of that, Jen! I know it's not a popular idea, but I believe that women are primarily responsible for the care & nurturing of their children. I'm not saying that husbands shouldn't help or be equal parents, I'm not saying that that's the ONLY thing they're good for or the ONLY thing they should ever do. But I believe it's an incredibly important job and the world doesn't give enough credit to it or even looks down on that notion. And sometimes I struggle with it, when I'm cleaning up spilled juice off the floor AGAIN. But I know this is where I'm supposed to be and I feel very, very lucky that I don't have to work right now. Maybe someday I will want to, but right now, my job is my kids & my home. And it's the most important job for me to do. Even though sometimes I wish I got mandated vacation days. :D

Colima said...

I totally agree as well. I don't have kids, but I know that if I did I would want to stay home with them. Sometimes even without kids I wish I could stay home and just keep up with housework!